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Offline phoenixz

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first, I have to say "sorry for my English skills"
second, I don't know this is "Rude or not"  but I really need a solution or how to control it and sorry If i say something inappropriate. here's the thing.

I'm gay and when I see other's penis or pics. my penis will go erect easily. In Thailand there is a onsen(Japan bathhouse) which like a public bath but it's for relaxing yourself!. I love to go there with honest... only relaxing! but when I was relaxing. Everyone in the room was naked due to the rules of onsen. when I see it. it's really hard to calm myself down. do you have any suggestions?. I've seen porn and some of them stay flaccid(soft) when the other guy touching it. how can he controlled his emotion?

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #1 on: 2016-05-25 13:32:36 »
You just have to get used to it! A situation that gives you a boner will get less and less exciting the more you do it. Just keep going and eventually you'll stop having erection.

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #2 on: 2016-06-22 06:59:44 »
คนไทยหรอครับ?

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #4 on: 2016-06-23 02:08:36 »
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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #5 on: 2016-06-24 14:35:39 »
เคยลองที่มัดเส้นสองสลิงยังอ่า

คือไรอ่า คนไทยครับผม

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #6 on: 2016-06-26 20:52:15 »
Mine has so little sensitivity it now doesn't get hard
Love skining back and letting my head show

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #7 on: 2016-07-01 07:06:16 »
why bother?  No one really cares in bath houses.  I know in Japanese bath houses many older men, not gay, would compare erection sizes and most importantly, how uncover the glans are.  They'll even wash younger guy's penis and help them stay uncover with tips.   It's of most important to Japanese men to appear uncovered because it means being an adult.  It's natural and they don't think they are gay; they would do this to their own sons when they reach around 10 to 12 years of age.   Erections w/o head being covered is not shameful. No need to hide it in places like bath houses.

Fun fact: In ancient Japan, most people are not shameful of nudity or sexuality.  Penis are often objects of worship.  Many rural villages have special places staffed by older women, whose only purpose was to help male teenagers.  A Japanese men MUST appear to be pulledback in public to be considered a real man, and with public baths everyone can see everyone else's state of exposure.   If you appear before another adult, man or woman, with glans covered, you are considered either an immature child, or someone who has sinister intentions.  Glans must be exposed to show honesty and purity.

So when a teen reached puberty and the glans are still covered, the parents worry and would try to help.  Often the parents do not do a good job, so they send these kids to special places in the village, where there are older women who does nothing but to massage the penis and to pull the skin back.  They use special massage and oral techniques to increase the length of the penis and the size of the glans itself, because that's the best way to help the penis stay permanently exposed.  The goal is to have the glans at LEAST only half covered when soft, but most be completely out during erection.   These are not considered sex shops as they will not bring the boys to orgasm - the point is to be exposed and remain semi-hard as long as possible.

These place are rare now so must guys rely on friends and family to help them do the pull back.  Some mothers start the boys on "skin pull back exercises" as young as 3 years old.  By middle school almost all boys can retract and attempt to stay exposed all the time, a state called "zuru muke".  Many were successful.  A few friend of mine did this and now they are barely covered when soft.  They usually pull it back fully in baths.   One told me about these special places in the rural villages because he went through one himself... he said his penis grew to about 18 cm and mushroom like head, and his skin never touched the glans - always look like he's completely cut.  From what I can tell he's correct.  He has the biggest head I've ever seen, which also inspired me to stay pulled back now. 

 I did ask him how they manage to get his head this big, he said there are secret technique to this.  They basically force him to stay pulled back all the time, giving him special underware  which force the head out 24 x 7.  He cannot masturbate during the process.  When they gave him treatment, they would press on some acupuncture points around the penis to force full erection from him, and massage the shaft to help the head engorge with blood.  Kind of similar to jelqing I think.  The difference is, the women would women would hold the glans in their mouth and use the tongue to tease the urethra.  Its not a blow job since there's no movement, the mouth is there to increase the temperature of the glans to help it expand.  The teasing was done to increase the blood flow and the opening of energy points at the spot.   Once they reach their max size they slow down until he was ready to blow, then they stop and press his shaft to stop the orgasmic response.  Once he calmed down they would continue, until he is at max size again, then porlong the sexual highten feeling as long as possible until he's ready to shoot again.  They would repeat this process for an hour, then leave him w/o orgasm.  The penis would stay hard for hours after this.  In the mean time, he cannot come by himself.   Once a week he's allowed to come in front of them, but he had to do it himself while they observe his technique.  Even masturbation as taught to ensure growth and glan exposure. After a year or two of this treatment, his penis reached 18 cm when erect from his previous size of 11 cm.   He said it's the best experience of his life, having these women teaching him how to be pulled back and possessing a large penis.  He shows it off anytime he can, and is the most confident man I know.  I really wish I had help like that.

If you don't get what I am talking about, go watch the movie "In the realm of Senses", a movie about Japan of 100 years ago with uncensored sex scenes.  It's a shocking movie but if you pay attention, you'll find that every single penis there is uncovered, hard or soft.  The main character's penis is completely uncovered all the time, and dark all over.  This is a trained penis.  Go watch it and you'll see how these people who never practiced circumcision, all look so cut in the ancient days. 

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #8 on: 2016-07-02 00:25:30 »
How frequently was this treatment supposedly applied by these women? Can you recommend any other resources which discuss such traditions? I know a good bit about modern Japanese retraction aids, but very little about traditional methods, and I'd be curious to learn more. BTW, there are some interesting Japanese woodcuts in the gallery section, under miscellaneous. I can't read the text, so it's hard to know exactly what some of them are about. Can you read these, or shed any light about them?

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #9 on: 2016-07-04 07:06:39 »
How frequently was this treatment supposedly applied by these women? Can you recommend any other resources which discuss such traditions? I know a good bit about modern Japanese retraction aids, but very little about traditional methods, and I'd be curious to learn more. BTW, there are some interesting Japanese woodcuts in the gallery section, under miscellaneous. I can't read the text, so it's hard to know exactly what some of them are about. Can you read these, or shed any light about them?

Last I remembered, he said it started around 13 when his parents are worried about phimosis, since if you enter Japanese middle school with a covered glans, you are a target for bullying.   The initial treatment for uncovered state is a few months of almost daily visit during the week, then once he's able to stay uncovered w/o erection it became more of a weekly maintenance thing and he was taught how to masturbate properly.  This is a normal but secretive practice for his rural village, so he doesn't know how wide spread is it.  His parent told him that it was pretty common before meiji restoration.  The actual penis growth took a few years but it was accompanied during puberty - he said won't work as fast or as well unless you're a teenage boy.  He didn't lose his virginity until 16 though - uncovering and PE are not the same thing as sexual practice and he considered himself a virgin util he had sex with a girl friend in high school.  He never considered any of that sexual and the old women who helped him are like sweet aunties to him, not whores.    Complete seperation of sexuality with nudity and even gentile growth is common in Japan, and kids take bath with their parents until way into their teenage years is common.  Glans uncovering and penis size is really just part of becoming adult, rather than gaining sexual satisfaction.  I'm not sure how well Western people can understand this.  All those porn you see in Japan are considered PERVERTED because it feature things like incest and sex in the bath or sex with nurses - those are all non-sexual things in Japan.   As you can tell Japanese overshares once you are considered part of his inner group, and he told me and showed me many intimate things w/o making it sexual.  I really appreciate that and have saw his penis many times w/o feeling any gayness. 

So I did try to dig up some of this practice online and I forgot the exact term for this practice, it has something to do with the term 剥ける or Mukeru I'm sure, but forgot the term itself.  As I found out from 2ch postings, other people also report such places in their ancestral homes (a lot of young Japanese move to large cities like Tokyo for school or employment), and found descriptions of similar practices, but amazingly I found no official documentation of this.  I believe it was due to the fact that many peasant culture before Meiji Restoration was not recorded on purpose as it was deemed too "babaric".  Almost no peasants has even a last name, and the culture was very matrilineal, meaning women held positions of power and sex was not a taboo.  My friend was from a very rural northern village and he told me in addition to these mukechinko practices, one of the other thing which were not spoke/recorded was villiage wide orgies.   After harvest the entire village adults join into a mass orgy and you can have sex with anyone including your own family members, but only if you are an adult - women meaning after menstration starts, male meaning with uncovered penis.  This was considered shameful by the central govt after Meiji, so it died out about 70 years ago.  However, making sure a boy has a totally uncovered penis is still a Japanese social norm today.   

I haven't thought about this much so I'l continue to dig, rest assured, there are ZERO english documentation about most of this.  Even modern practices of "curing fake phimosis" is something outsiders just have a hard time understanding.  I mean girls just will NOT have sex with a covered penis.  You can have a small dick, that's okay, but if you show it to a girl with foreskin covered glans, the will be repulsed since she'll think ur a child or childish, and your parents didn't raise you well.   Many of them don't like circumcision either because of the scar - circumcised adult Asian penis leaves a large scar which is clearly visible and create a "two-tone" look on the penis.  It's considered also repulsive.   This is the main reason I'm not yet circumcised.  Parents or sibling of a boy will teach a pre-teen boy how to do this; a lot of time mothers and sisters because they understand how bad it will be for the boy in term of attracting mates if they are not uncovered in time. 

I'll try to dig something but but it's not going to be in English.  Japan has a lot of secrets and they don't translate them on purpose.  For example, do you know that in Japan there is a large number of native Japanese considered a sub-human species and continuously being discriminated against in every part of life?  They are called the Burakumin and they are like the untoucheable in India.  Companies request ancestral documents to make sure you are not a Burakumin.  Good luck finding much info on these folks in English.  I know a lot about Japan, but I have not met one Japanese willing to talk to me about this.  This whole rural culture of penish growth/assistant is on the same level of secrecy, unfortunately.   
















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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #10 on: 2016-07-28 06:01:04 »
There's not much you can do, to control it. It just happens. Happened to me in the dunes on naturist beach in conversation with another guy. Funnily conversation was about foreskin retraction on erection. Mine started getting aroused and ended up fully erect. Though didn't have to wait long before he got an erection too. Found we were different as I have to manually retract my foreskin as he had an automatic retraction of his. They both stayed up until we went for swim in the cold sea. That soon shrivelled things!

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #11 on: 2016-07-28 08:07:37 »
Some times you have to relax, sure you might get some movement down there, but just relax, i think the more you think about it the more it causes the issue, as you want to not show, but then you can not help it
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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #12 on: 2019-06-09 18:24:04 »
One solution is to live a long life. As you get older spontaneous erections become less of a "problem" and more of something to treasure and enjoy when they do happen.
Conscientious retractor for 20 years, circumcised since 1991.

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Re: ็How do you guys control your erection in public
« Reply #13 on: 2020-07-29 22:02:28 »
If you’re naked in public, sometimes you’re going to get an erection in public. When this happens to me at the beach, what I do depends on the circumstances. You can cover up with a towel or something - but this looks a bit obvious! - I sit up and pull my penis towards my leg and keep the glans covered with my fingers; or I turn over and lie on my front. If it’s a gay beach, or if there’s not many people around I just enjoy the sensation of being erect in the open air.